Lifestyle
So you don't like the drama, you don't want to stress about what to wear and what make up to do or even better, you don't want to stress about where to take who?
I thought so. Here is an article from one of my good friend and colleague at the "Open Space Foundation" here in Bulgaria (that also happened to be my stylist in my previous shoot for "The Red Wardrobe"
Hope you enjoy the article...
Dear Ophelia
Or the evil things we do (to ourselves) for love
by Angela Maddalena
by Angela Maddalena
Valentine’s day is approaching, isn’t it so? Shops and cafes are “dressed” in red, chocolate is the next big business and the majority of the women in the Universe are desperately shaving their legs.
Apart from the totally acceptable necessity of not looking like Bigfoot (and I’m talking to you, brit. “fashionistas”), I always believed that this whole shebang of Valentine’s day is a loser’s business and I don’t feel the need to lie or be politically correct in this respect. Fact is that this whole thing is quite stupid. Before you say anything, I am not speaking out off the envy of a lonely heart. I’m happily in love. Still, i firmly believe this Valentine’s thing is something in between the festival of consumerism and a distorted vision of what a catholic festivity is, or shall be.
Leaving catholic saints alone, anyway, what is this thing all about? Because it is not only spending money in lingerie and sweet things. This is the happy side of it, although still consumeristic, and full of the beautiful idea of celebrating your loved one (if and when it’s true, for the majority of couples it usually results in fighting each other in way too crowded sushi restaurants). But what about those lonely ones that are about to subscribe their undying loyalty to Netflix? And, see, I’m not only talking about women. Yes, somehow is true that feminine side of the apple is more “sensitive” on the matter, but is not entirely true that “boys don’t cry”. And you know what I’m talking about.
There is a peculiar feeling, the Valentine’s Stress Syndrome (yes, I invented a name for it), that is pretty much like a post-traumatic stress syndrome on estrogen: people simply decide to acknowledge every personal and social failure ever occurred in their lives and cry about it eating sweets. Why this date in particular? I mean, you can actually cry every day, ain’t?
It’s because, sorry to state such an ovviety, you were told to.
Just like snow at Christmas, I mean come on!, it happens to be mandatory to cry on Valentine’s. Well, no, dears, it is not. First because in the traditional catholic festivity nothing was mentioned about chocolate and the apparent need of having a sweetheart in this particular day, second because is soooo mainstream and, last but not least, because you don’t need to.
It’s just a trick, this entire thing, set up to sell. Do you really wanna be sad for this?
If your answer is “no, off course not”, I have some simple suggestions for you:
before finding love, my personal way in living this Valentine’s day was not to notice it. People are selling more types of chocolate? Great, I like chocolate. But I never really felt the impulse of making a cocoon with my blankets and listen to Anouk’s Nobody’s wife (or whatever you like to listen when having a love related nervous breakdown). I was totally and naturally ignoring it.
And now? -You may ask – what’s the difference now?
I’ll tell you: nothing. Me and sweet half, we’ll be drinking wine from the same glass (Bulgarian tradition) because we are too lazy to wash two.
See, I always believed that nothing is hard if you do it with self esteem and knowledge.
Because I was deeply sure of the total unnecessarily of this “market”, I simply never felt it.
I prefer to celebrate Carnival, that still is focused on wine and sweets but in a funnier way, and just try to take the proliferation of heart-shaped boxes on the 14th like a world celebration for Nirvana’s beautiful song.
But, if you don’t feel the need to involve unforgotten Kurt in the matter, let’s leave aside my personal fascination for grunge music and go back to the point. And the point is that you people actually have someone that loves you: you.
At least, you should.
If this Thing must be, for reason that neither me, nor the Bible understand, a love festivity, why not to use it to celebrate the one and only thing that will always stay by your side? Yeah, it is you, again. “Gotta love yourself, sis” (i’m 60% sure this line is from some B-movie I don’t recall anymore, but anyways is true).
Romantic period, hurray hurray, ended two centuries ago and nobody is actually dying out of a broken heart since “Pride and prejudice” was published.
(By the way, Turner and his fellowship of Romantics were more focused on the purity and might of the feelings and nature themselves, rather than on buying or selling crispy underpants, just to remark a fact).
Beautiful Ophelia, crazy for love, had an “accident” and fallen in to (not even so deep) water. Yeah, she died.
She eventually made three men very famous (Hamlet, Shakespeare and Millais, that portrayed her) but still she died. What for? She would have been a happy young lady if not for the obscure subculture cracking her thoughts: that you are not worthy, if someone doesn’t tell you that you are. That you are not important if someone doesn’t make you. That you gotta have someone to go to sushi bar with on a particular imposed day…
Dear Ophelia, please, do not die. Do not cry. Put those flowers in your hair, smile and move on: Hamlet was always too much focused on his mother, anyway!
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So you don't like the drama, you don't want to stress about what to wear and what make up to do or even better, you don't want to stress about where to take who?
by Angela Maddalena
Valentine’s day is approaching, isn’t it so? Shops and cafes are “dressed” in red, chocolate is the next big business and the majority of the women in the Universe are desperately shaving their legs.
Apart from the totally acceptable necessity of not looking like Bigfoot (and I’m talking to you, brit. “fashionistas”), I always believed that this whole shebang of Valentine’s day is a loser’s business and I don’t feel the need to lie or be politically correct in this respect. Fact is that this whole thing is quite stupid. Before you say anything, I am not speaking out off the envy of a lonely heart. I’m happily in love. Still, i firmly believe this Valentine’s thing is something in between the festival of consumerism and a distorted vision of what a catholic festivity is, or shall be.
Leaving catholic saints alone, anyway, what is this thing all about? Because it is not only spending money in lingerie and sweet things. This is the happy side of it, although still consumeristic, and full of the beautiful idea of celebrating your loved one (if and when it’s true, for the majority of couples it usually results in fighting each other in way too crowded sushi restaurants). But what about those lonely ones that are about to subscribe their undying loyalty to Netflix? And, see, I’m not only talking about women. Yes, somehow is true that feminine side of the apple is more “sensitive” on the matter, but is not entirely true that “boys don’t cry”. And you know what I’m talking about.
There is a peculiar feeling, the Valentine’s Stress Syndrome (yes, I invented a name for it), that is pretty much like a post-traumatic stress syndrome on estrogen: people simply decide to acknowledge every personal and social failure ever occurred in their lives and cry about it eating sweets. Why this date in particular? I mean, you can actually cry every day, ain’t?
It’s because, sorry to state such an ovviety, you were told to.
Just like snow at Christmas, I mean come on!, it happens to be mandatory to cry on Valentine’s. Well, no, dears, it is not. First because in the traditional catholic festivity nothing was mentioned about chocolate and the apparent need of having a sweetheart in this particular day, second because is soooo mainstream and, last but not least, because you don’t need to.
It’s just a trick, this entire thing, set up to sell. Do you really wanna be sad for this?
If your answer is “no, off course not”, I have some simple suggestions for you:
before finding love, my personal way in living this Valentine’s day was not to notice it. People are selling more types of chocolate? Great, I like chocolate. But I never really felt the impulse of making a cocoon with my blankets and listen to Anouk’s Nobody’s wife (or whatever you like to listen when having a love related nervous breakdown). I was totally and naturally ignoring it.
And now? -You may ask – what’s the difference now?
I’ll tell you: nothing. Me and sweet half, we’ll be drinking wine from the same glass (Bulgarian tradition) because we are too lazy to wash two.
See, I always believed that nothing is hard if you do it with self esteem and knowledge.
Because I was deeply sure of the total unnecessarily of this “market”, I simply never felt it.
I prefer to celebrate Carnival, that still is focused on wine and sweets but in a funnier way, and just try to take the proliferation of heart-shaped boxes on the 14th like a world celebration for Nirvana’s beautiful song.
But, if you don’t feel the need to involve unforgotten Kurt in the matter, let’s leave aside my personal fascination for grunge music and go back to the point. And the point is that you people actually have someone that loves you: you.
At least, you should.
If this Thing must be, for reason that neither me, nor the Bible understand, a love festivity, why not to use it to celebrate the one and only thing that will always stay by your side? Yeah, it is you, again. “Gotta love yourself, sis” (i’m 60% sure this line is from some B-movie I don’t recall anymore, but anyways is true).
Romantic period, hurray hurray, ended two centuries ago and nobody is actually dying out of a broken heart since “Pride and prejudice” was published.
(By the way, Turner and his fellowship of Romantics were more focused on the purity and might of the feelings and nature themselves, rather than on buying or selling crispy underpants, just to remark a fact).
Beautiful Ophelia, crazy for love, had an “accident” and fallen in to (not even so deep) water. Yeah, she died.
She eventually made three men very famous (Hamlet, Shakespeare and Millais, that portrayed her) but still she died. What for? She would have been a happy young lady if not for the obscure subculture cracking her thoughts: that you are not worthy, if someone doesn’t tell you that you are. That you are not important if someone doesn’t make you. That you gotta have someone to go to sushi bar with on a particular imposed day…
Dear Ophelia, please, do not die. Do not cry. Put those flowers in your hair, smile and move on: Hamlet was always too much focused on his mother, anyway!
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THE RED WARDROBE!
"The Red Wardrobe" does not mean that the paint of your closet or the clothes in the wardrobe are red, it simply means VALENTINE SEASON is here, which could only mean the love times are here and the couples are getting heated up. Everyone is getting everyone something special, making plans of where to go and what to do to make it memorable and some are just hoping Netflix and sweat pants will do the trick.
Sometimes we think we have to dress to impress, while some just think.."Whatever!" but here is the thing, love or no love, everyone deserves some sweet self love and that is why when i think about Valentines day, I think about three different people with different emotions..with very different hopes for this Valentine season.
One mood is the "first date", So you like this person, or not, either ways this person is your Valentine. You want to impress everyone on your way out including your date and you are thinking.. hmm, maybe it will cost me a fortune, maybe I will need a lot, but here is the best under budget items YOU must be having or if you don't then you could have because they are literally almost in every local store or even thrift/ second hand markets like Mwenge and Karume.
The key to standing out is how you style what you wear.
My stylist, Angie Wilde, in this shoot, paired up a cute floral sunny dress with a black fur coat and a brown belt on top of the two. She also paired black stockings and black boots. I am sorry guys I know the boots and the fur are a bit off for Tanzania but it was FREEZING cold.
The point however is the style,
She says " It's always true for a first date: don't overdo it!
A touch of craziness is required, but try to always have it under control so you will not leave the impression of a cat woman. If you choose a colorful dress, don't use shiny or massive jewelry and choose the rest of the outfit, bag, shoes, coat etc. In a monochromatic nuance. A belt is almost always good with a "not official" dress and, if you buy second hand, it helps you to adjust the dress to your shapes without much of an effort!"
The key to standing out is how you style what you wear.
My stylist, Angie Wilde, in this shoot, paired up a cute floral sunny dress with a black fur coat and a brown belt on top of the two. She also paired black stockings and black boots. I am sorry guys I know the boots and the fur are a bit off for Tanzania but it was FREEZING cold.
The point however is the style,
She says " It's always true for a first date: don't overdo it!
A touch of craziness is required, but try to always have it under control so you will not leave the impression of a cat woman. If you choose a colorful dress, don't use shiny or massive jewelry and choose the rest of the outfit, bag, shoes, coat etc. In a monochromatic nuance. A belt is almost always good with a "not official" dress and, if you buy second hand, it helps you to adjust the dress to your shapes without much of an effort!"
So you want to look cute yet daring and impressing? keep reading...
If you are a mall type of girl the Splash and Mr. Price are very good stores to get sunny dresses for an estimate of around thirty thousand Tshs to around sixty thousand. If you are thinking "how much types can I buy with that cash" the I suggest you go to a thrift market like Mwenge and you can get yourself a sunny dress from around three thousands Tshs to the maximum of twenty thousands Tshs ( do not buy if it is higher than that price), Karume could be even cheaper so check that out too.
You can get an almost similar coat minus the fur, or with the fur (it just won't make that much sense with the heat...but again it is rainy season so it could work) in the same stores and markets for almost the same price ranges.
Be sure to add in a cute necklace (My stylist is awesome) and can we please talk about the make up? yes my make up artist is on point, but I am sorry you have to read the next article for that.
I won't lie, having a good photographer added the "ing" in "Amazing"
If you are a mall type of girl the Splash and Mr. Price are very good stores to get sunny dresses for an estimate of around thirty thousand Tshs to around sixty thousand. If you are thinking "how much types can I buy with that cash" the I suggest you go to a thrift market like Mwenge and you can get yourself a sunny dress from around three thousands Tshs to the maximum of twenty thousands Tshs ( do not buy if it is higher than that price), Karume could be even cheaper so check that out too.
You can get an almost similar coat minus the fur, or with the fur (it just won't make that much sense with the heat...but again it is rainy season so it could work) in the same stores and markets for almost the same price ranges.
Be sure to add in a cute necklace (My stylist is awesome) and can we please talk about the make up? yes my make up artist is on point, but I am sorry you have to read the next article for that.
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| ignore the snow flake |
I won't lie, having a good photographer added the "ing" in "Amazing"
The second mood is the ordinary couple, this person has been dating for a while and valentines is a booked day for both of them.
The thing that most girls do is over dress. I mean it is okay to impress but you don't want to over impress, especially if you are short on budget so... Angie to the rescue,"Class is like blood, you can't choose yours. So, go with it. Select carefully the model of jeans that suits you better and go simple: he knows you already, so you don't need to make an astonishing first impression! Make him feel like he is walking with a proud Venus without spending so much or wasting time: you are more beautiful when you feel secure of your self. A good combination is always white (or black) and jeans. Rock it with fancy shoes, or a shining necklace and keep make up frenzy under control. He knows you, remember?"
That being said, she paired an awesome pair of high waist jeans with brown Zara heels (i still had my stockings on, it was freezing) a nice and clean white shirt with a trench coat and a Marvin hat. Can you guess where my stylist is from based on the look?
If we are being honest I will tell you this is the "cheapest look" you can gather. You obviously have a pair of high waist jeans but just cause its a special day, you can buy these at Mwenge for literally three thousand Tshs to about twenty thousands, some might get to twenty five but if you were me, you wouldn't buy over ten thousand from Mwenge unless it is from an actual boutique. The style however made the whole look more perfect. From the marvin hat design to the untucked shirt and the folded jeans.The trench coat was an extra A+
The last mood is the "I don't do love" type of look. I know, you think love is just not for you and you would rather stay in your pajamas all day, but let me tell you what: all the love you need is self love.
I did not leave you behind.
Nothing screams I don't do love the most like black and black leather so for this valentines, please slay with an all black outfit. A few added colors to your look also has to be dark.
So technically, Angie, my Italian stylist, paired black boots with black jeans with a black and deep maroon top and an amazing leather jacket. You of course could add a chocker necklace but please don't wear any skull earrings or bags or any kind of accessories cause then you would look dark and evil.
In her words she says "Make sure you have something black. Washed away black is not a good replacement for the real thing and says "I have no power" rather than "I know what I want". But to forget the colors and go all black is also a mistake: use colors to make the black shine. I know it sounds odd, but it's a simple truth: black is darker when you have something in contrast with it"
You can get any kind of similar tops and jeans from the stores and markets I mentioned above. For the boots, I would recommend Karume: you will be surprised how much pairs of shoes you will buy with only ten thousand Tshs. The backpack I am carrying is a bit costly in boutiques or even online stores you would get it from around thirty thousand tshs to forty five( it could go higher). At Mwenge I am sure you can get for around fifteen thousand tshs.
I hope you liked the article, feel free to comment and please subscribe to my blog. Come back on Friday to see more posted pictures of me and the team on the "being Anastazia" page.
Special thanks to:
My awesome Italian Stylist Angel Wilde
The bold and perfecting Photographer Gergana Kilinova
and my beautiful MUA (makeup artist) Stasy Ferdinand
See you tomorrow for the make up article....
With love
Stacy💕
HAPPY VALENTINES SEASON!!!The thing that most girls do is over dress. I mean it is okay to impress but you don't want to over impress, especially if you are short on budget so... Angie to the rescue,"Class is like blood, you can't choose yours. So, go with it. Select carefully the model of jeans that suits you better and go simple: he knows you already, so you don't need to make an astonishing first impression! Make him feel like he is walking with a proud Venus without spending so much or wasting time: you are more beautiful when you feel secure of your self. A good combination is always white (or black) and jeans. Rock it with fancy shoes, or a shining necklace and keep make up frenzy under control. He knows you, remember?"
That being said, she paired an awesome pair of high waist jeans with brown Zara heels (i still had my stockings on, it was freezing) a nice and clean white shirt with a trench coat and a Marvin hat. Can you guess where my stylist is from based on the look?
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| Correct...she is Italian! |
The last mood is the "I don't do love" type of look. I know, you think love is just not for you and you would rather stay in your pajamas all day, but let me tell you what: all the love you need is self love.
I did not leave you behind.
So technically, Angie, my Italian stylist, paired black boots with black jeans with a black and deep maroon top and an amazing leather jacket. You of course could add a chocker necklace but please don't wear any skull earrings or bags or any kind of accessories cause then you would look dark and evil.
In her words she says "Make sure you have something black. Washed away black is not a good replacement for the real thing and says "I have no power" rather than "I know what I want". But to forget the colors and go all black is also a mistake: use colors to make the black shine. I know it sounds odd, but it's a simple truth: black is darker when you have something in contrast with it"
You can get any kind of similar tops and jeans from the stores and markets I mentioned above. For the boots, I would recommend Karume: you will be surprised how much pairs of shoes you will buy with only ten thousand Tshs. The backpack I am carrying is a bit costly in boutiques or even online stores you would get it from around thirty thousand tshs to forty five( it could go higher). At Mwenge I am sure you can get for around fifteen thousand tshs.
I hope you liked the article, feel free to comment and please subscribe to my blog. Come back on Friday to see more posted pictures of me and the team on the "being Anastazia" page.
Special thanks to:
My awesome Italian Stylist Angel Wilde
The bold and perfecting Photographer Gergana Kilinova
and my beautiful MUA (makeup artist) Stasy Ferdinand
See you tomorrow for the make up article....
With love
Stacy💕
HOW TO WALK INTO 2018 WITHOUT AN ECONOMIC CRISIS
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| image from solo sophie
So holiday season is the best season of the year, the only downside to it is that it can really leave you broke.
Ever heard of the phrase "January is the longest month of the year"? (#njanuary) I bet you have. Now I thought this could help you stay in the clear, have fun and still have a budget to start 2018 with.
1. Go to entrance free clubs.
Clubs are the first go to spots for this season. The trick is maintaining a little when you go in. Most clubs are tshs 10,000 per person and on going and the terrifying part is that are still going to spend not less than tshs 10,000 on drinks. Trust me if you are paying for the girl/boy that you want to hook up with it IS going to get worse for you.
My advice to you this season, try to go to places like Escape 1, Tipsy, Micasa, Samaki-samaki, there are so many places that need you to give a sight, you would be surprised trust me, you will save a blessed lot of cash.
2.The Club isn't the best place to find love so stop offering free drinks.
Okay, okay, I get it, you lonely, you trying to get but do you honestly think you will end up marrying this person? and even if you did, I wonder if you will be able to get in a fight without wondering if others are saying "well what were they thinking?" I personally take it very offensively. You don't need to bribe your way with drinks, you really like him/her walk up to them start a conversation then when it must come to that point, then maybe you can buy someone a drink but do not open up a minor bar.
I mean, do you seriously think that one bottle of Smirnoff or whatever you are having is enough to make babies with me? girl or boy GET A FRIGGIN GRIP YAAAAH!
Anyway, go hook up with your neighbor or school/work mate you are spending extra money that you could have saved for #2018
3.Have a budget every time you go out.
So maybe you should have made one before December but get this, If you actually just stop picking your wallet without caring how much is in there or how much you are willing to spend you are bound to be sentenced to a whole month of regret and thought of how you could have done your hair with it or bought pizza that January.
4.You need to be greedy.
I know, every once in a while we want to show off or just prove a point or just innocently want to treat our friends. my advice, DON'T DO IT! You really want to pay for someone? i pick boo and your bff and maybe if that clingy relative/sibling wants to come with but even this should not be everyday. Stop paying for that friend that posted a #bored emoji on their status out of pity or any kind of feeling. If you really have no company then maybe but consider this, you have to take full care of that person while there...Stop buying your friends that you bumped into drinks, I mean if they did not care enough to invite me then why in the world would i spare that grudge?
5.Take the crew
Okaaay!! Stacy, what the hell girl, didn't you just tell me not to spend on extras? Chill, I know what I said but believe it or not, you have a crew and its big enough it is another way to save as everyone has a contribution to the turn up however the other side of the coin was my other point. Do not bring the crew if you are the only functioning ATM.
6. Spend so you can save.
This is not exactly safe but you can try sneaking in a drink or two along with the snacks, if you buy outside the party spots like the club or mbalamwezi, Ramada (You get it) they are bound to be cheaper hence YOU ARE SAVING. or go to places like Mbudya, I went there with my friends last year (2016) a time like this, we carried our own drinks, food, snacks and music and we had so much fun with so much money that we went back home with.
Check this, food around #beachcomba ranges from tshs 15,000 but the food we bought costed us around 2,000-4,500 per person. Now tell me if that is not an extra burger from King's burger.
7. Throw a "bring a drink" party.
I do this all the time. It is so much fun and easy. Usually, I guarantee the party venue which is usually a house and I bring in good music and invite my -MUST PARTY- friends and tell them to spread the word. No cash entrance but you need to pay up your drink entrance. The type of drink you ask people to come with will totally be yours to decide. You get to pick your own music, get a massive selection of drinks and not have to worry about transport fee. You do have to clean though and be the patron/matron just put up rules and baby proof the place. People tend to get really childish after a few drinks. And make sure people can not get to the roof so lock all the doors you do not want people to access and put in the things that need safe keeping during the party.
Those are my few basic tips to keep you juiced up, I am not saying don't have fun, I am saying if you can budget well enough, the fun will go on.
Hope to meet you up soon in a non "flat broke state"
Have a blessed holiday...
Stacy💞
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BEST INEXPENSIVE GIFTS TO GIVE SOMEONE YOU LOVE THIS XMAS HOLIDAY
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| NAMA Model @luiveronica Shot by Apix |
Xmas has been there for me for as long i can remember however its even better when you make it special for the people that you love.
Here is your 'TO GET/DO' list for this Xmas holiday.
- Treat someone to a spa, take your mom, girl, sister, heck your dad, bro, guy to get a long and nice massage. Besides it has been a tense year. You need to enter 2018 with a bright and light body. There are some very cheap spas around town.
- Make customized gifts. You could make a family or relationship scrapbook. Call me old fashioned but i feel that gifts that were hand made are more precious as you took the time to think and make something for that special someone/family. I made my mother a scrapbook on her birthday, it was signed by my day and all my sisters with something they all said from the deepest of their hearts. If my mom was not always acting tough she would have broken down, besides i did see a tear peeping. Point is, it was so touching for her not to mention me.
- Write a letter. Yeah..yeah, i am old fashioned but trust me, messages, picture posting take something away from us. It is not everyday someone says something nice to you so trust me, writing a lovely letter to a person you love will mean a lot to them.
- Buy them what they want. People tend to hint off what they need even when they aren't saying anything. Pay attention to details. I got my boyfriend a new watch, he did not ask me but i simply observed that his old watch was giving him trouble. He did not expect it. HE LOVED IT.
- By someone a new piece of cloth. There is a reason why every kid gets excited during holiday season, that is because they get new things to wear and show off. Trust me your inner kid never really goes away. (Just make sure it is within the style of the person you are buying it for.)
- Treat someone to some breakfast in bed. Get up earlier, prepare something special and surprise your loved one with a good breakfast in bed and an I love you not if you can't get a card.
- Ask them what they want to do, ok.. not exactly my favorite, I am all about surprises but being Santa and making dreams come true don't hurt no body.
- SACRIFICE! do that one thing you normally wouldn't do for this person.
- SPEND QUALITY TIME. Nothing beats this, my dad and I always decorate our house during Xmas eve. We pick out a tree and fill it with lights and decorations. We bond more every time we do this. We get drinks, liquor for the family, we toast and pick a very nice movie to watch as family. Oh and that is the one day i am actually allowed to play music very loud. The same goes with your family, guy/girl, I am telling.. memories beat any kind of price tag.
Happy holidays everyone... wishing you all the blessings that come with Jesus.
with love..
STACY💞
WORDS OF A HUSTLER
Meet Vincent Victor (On instagram as Vin94__) and his interview with FALS where he tells us a bit about himself. I know you like okay..so who is Vincent and why should you care? I'll tell you that Vincent like many other hustlers out there whose stories have not been heard have so much to tell us.. I knew Vincent growing up, and I can tell you that he isn't the same guy that I used to know. He has changed so much.. for the best and well I thought his story will inspire you as it has me...
ENJOY!!!
FALS (Stacy): Who are you and how can you define yourself?
VIN: Vincent was a name my parents gave me and I can define myself as a diamond in the rough that is yet to be found.
FALS: How do you perceive life?
VIN: I think life is full of disappointment, regrets especially when your trying to be and do good, I would say it is better to first do good for yourself to reach your goals then maybe then you can go back and help
FALS: What is the most important thing in your life?
VIN: That would definitely be my family's safety
FALS: How can you describe your economic status?
VIN: I would say for a guy my age my economic status is very good, so far I have been blessed to finish my first house, I own a few businesses which include motorbikes (Bodaboda) and other small businesses also I bought my very first car with all the savings that i have from all my businesses.
FALS: So exactly how did you get to where you are today?
VIN: I would say as a teenager, I had no idea how things actually worked, it was like I was doing the opposite of what i was suppose to be doing all of this made me get to a point of regret and realization so I decided to do good by my mother's prayers and I got a job where I started from selling phones which came straight from Korea and I made it my mission and I achieved trust from my bosses. From the trust they gave me a major supplies gig, this was all fruits of my kindness, honesty and transparency. From the gig I was able to save up 2 million tshs and bought my first motorcycle. The bike helped me gain more enabling me to save up and buy my second bike. The story goes on and on to a list of hard work and sacrifice but the major key is just that, BEING TRUST WORTHY
FALS: Okay! so from your previous answer we could tell that you haven't arrived to your destination just yet so.. exactly what do you want to become?
VIN: As I have previously stated, life is full of disappointments, I wanted to be a pilot or an astronaut but i realized that you can't always get what you want just from a mere wish so its better to adopt to whatever life throws at you and from that my destination would be to be purely successful. I mean to me, My struggles haven't even begun.
FALS: Growing up, I knew you as a dancer, what happened to that?
VIN: WOW! you remember... well, I used to be a dancer simply because to me, that was the only thing i thought i was good at. I was never good at football like my other friends and don't even get me started with singing but dancing...yeah dancing was my baby. Painfully I had to give it up when my crew decided to become normal people, normal routines, decided to get jobs and give up what we had before the fun even begun.
FALS: so why did you not proceed with that even when everyone decided to walk out?
VIN: It wasn't so easy, I could not afford but if i come to have a child someday the first thing I will do is make sure I stand by their talents, I have seen dancers and many different artists becoming successful and travel the world I just do not see why it is so hard for our community to open up to such industries. God willing someday I would like to build something about dance, it is still my baby, yes dance is so complicated and advanced now but I won't give out without a fight.
Cheers... Thanks for stopping by.....STACY💕
So for this article i thought i should let someone else talk themselves, yes i know it's weird the blog is named after me and should come to you as it's all about "Stacy"but Stacy loves hearing people out and that is why below is my #rbf (real best friend's ) thoughts and feelings... #KarenEtale #chefkay
ON INSTAGRAM AS @karen_etale
"As a kid, my mom used to tell me I've this big heart that's quick to keep everyone and almost everything in..to hold em dear to myself. That was true..it sort of still is. See I wasn't all that interesting as a kid, can't say making friends was hard but maintaining was definitely an issue. I mean I moved from one best friend to another, and yes maybe I didn't loose em completely but things wouldn't be the same nor as close. And I'm sire your thinking..that's normal people don't have the same friends from their childhood, they change from time to time,..but really ask yourself, do they? And if yes, how is your relationship now? See my concern is not having one best friend through out time, but do you atleast keep in touch for old times sake? Or is it water under the bridge situation.. I don't know about you all, but this bugs me...and it bugs me even more noticing that it still exists in my life. Its like its a trend. See if its one thing I was raised upon was healthy relationships,that includes friendships. Because when you up when you down, its your family and friends who will be there for you. No one else. But lately I see noone around me valuing the friendships they have...even worse encourage the bad ones. My question is why are we all comfortable with this trend? Is it a "cool millennial " thing to do? Those relationships weren't important ? Or is it we lack the knowledge on how to maintain them? Because for real, if you can't maintain a friendship, how you supposed to have a good lasting relationship with your man? If you think about it this is why there are bad breakups. Not that there are good breakups but for real are they maturely handled? If I ask you today to call your ex and meet for brunch would you? And I know others will be like I talk to my ex, but seriously how long did it take you to speak to em again? An year? 2 years? And yes they are all connected.. But it shows lack of maturity in both. Look at this way, what do you do when you meet your friends now? Its awkward right? Your like heyyy..I know you. You alive?! What I'm tryna say is that, we can make it change. It doesn't have to be a trend. Frankly this goes ahead and even affects our relationship with God, coz if you can't be cool with what you see how you supposed to be cool with what you don't see? A little more value in the relationships we have ...Thoughts?
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